Every day, we interact with different kinds of people, from our home, school, workplace, community, etc. Our ability to manage our interactions with other people creates an impact on how good or bad our day (or life in general) will become.
In the past, when I was in my teens and early twenties, I wasn’t good in interacting and relating with other people. I was introverted, shy and conservative. I get conscious whenever I talk to people especially when I’m in a crowd. I care about what other people will say about me that’s why I prefer avoiding the crowd and just hang out with selected few people in order not to get offended or hurt. I even tend to get controlling and clingy. And the worst part is that I always end up having a fight or broken relationship with another person whether it’s at home or in school.
But luckily I was able to change my attitude and improve my ability to deal and interact with other people. It wasn’t an instant process though, it took a few years and I’m still continuously improving it. What helped me changed slowly was when I started to read and apply the principles taught by Mr Dale Carnegie’s book, How to Win Friends and Influence People?
The book showed me a lot of valuable principles and lessons in harmoniously and positively relating and dealing with people. I was so fascinated by the book that I also attended several trainings from Dale Carnegie Training in the Philippines to further improve my ability to interact with different people and be confident in a crowd of people. These trainings include the Dale Carnegie Course: Effective Communication and Human Relationship, and High Impact Presentation. You may read about my experiences in the training, click here.
When I took time to improve my human relationship ability, I saw a huge change in how I interact and deal with people. It became easier for me to be confident in a crowd of people, I became less sensitive on what other people will say and do, and it was easier to reprimand or remove people from my life without creating gaps.
An important lesson and realization I had that improved my relationship and interaction with people are these: be kind and considerate.
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. ~ Philo of Alexandria
Human beings are self-centered by nature. We tend to care about how we feel and think before we think of other people’s feelings and thoughts. Such attitude and mentality often leads us to becoming emotional and sensitive. We incline to that sensitive emotion and feelings that we get easily affected and hurt by other people’s thoughts about us and their actions.
We can get out of this emotional feelings and thoughts if we change our perspective, if we start to reverse our thoughts and feelings. If we start to be kind and considerate of what other people feel and think. Only then can we truly understand other people and build better relationship with them.
I hope you were able to pick up valuable lesson from this blog article. For a final note, let me leave you this thought by Thomas J. Watson, Sr.:
Really big people are, above everything else, courteous, considerate and generous – not just to some people in some circumstances – but to everyone all the time.