Majority of people loves to complain about many areas of their life, like their job, home, school, government, community, etc., yet they are unwillingly to act and do something to change it. They want the circumstance to change on its own without the need for them to change. As a result, years have passed by and they still complain on the same things.
When I hear and meet people who endlessly complain about the undesirable and negative conditions that life brings them, I can’t help but to remember what Albert Einstein have said;
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different result.”
I learned about this phrase when I was still employed. Back then, I was struggling financially, emotionally and physically because of too much work responsibility, low salary pay and lack of fulfillment and enjoyment in my life. What I did is what most people do; I complained and condemned my stressful and difficult situations. I blamed it to my boss and the company for taking advantage and passing too much burden to us, their staff and employees. My grievances were also felt by my co-workers and friends that’s why whenever we take our break, all we talk about is how stressful, difficult and unsatisfying our work is. Months have passed by and the incidents didn’t change, in fact, it gotten worse as the days went by.
After a couple of months of complaining and condemning my job, I got fed up by the unchanging, unprogressive and difficult work environment. I finally decided to look for a solution to my moans because I realized nothing will change in my state if I don’t do anything and just keep on complaining.
What I did next was to look for better opportunities outside that company. At the same time, I also started reading self-help books to help me better cope with the change I wanted to create in my career and life. By doing so, I learned a lot of valuable lessons in the process. And one of the many lessons is discovering how powerful our thoughts are. How a simple change in perspective can alter one’s life.
Now, three years after I decided to change and proactively take charge of my life, I never been so enthusiastic, progressive and fulfilled. Whenever I get in touch with my old co-workers, I observed two different behaviors. Those who also chose to create change have found their own success and happiness, while those who chose to stay still kept on complaining with the same misery and hardship. Their choice of not acting upon their circumstance has not changed their problem and life.
It wasn’t surprising to see how people who embrace and accept change ends up more successful and happy compared to those that don’t. Because as Mary Engelbreit has said:
“If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.”
The lesson I want to share in this article is that if you want to create change in your life, be first willing to change yourself and your perspective.
Here are some steps on how you can do so:
- Develop a proactive attitude instead of reactive attitude
- Be willing to get out of your comfort zone and try different things
- If you can’t change it, change how you perceive it
- Learn to accept and be adaptable to change
- If you can’t stick with it for the long haul, quit
The benefit is that once you learn to accept and create change, that’s when you are able to open better opportunity in your life. Unlike when you are complaining and condemning, it brings you nothing but negative feeling and unwanted circumstance.
In any negative, stressful and difficult situation, remember this phrase from Paulo Coelho:
“Every day, we are given the chance to change the things we don’t like. Use it!”