“To be happy, one only must be able to confront, which is to say, experience, those things that are. Unhappiness is only this: the inability to confront that which is.” – L. Ron Hubbard
Anxiety and worry come from our own insecurity and fear. Both are state of mind controlled by our thoughts. Often, how we handle these thoughts show the strength or weakness of our character.
There are few people who can solve their anxiety and worry just by simply ignoring it. They’ve acquired mastery and control over their thoughts that anxiety and worry doesn’t affect them. The strength of their character helps them to forget and move on easily.
On the other hand, most people let their anxiety and worry overpower them. They carry it wherever they go, they can’t let it go, simply ignore it and move on. Their emotion had taken over their ability to control their thoughts.
If you are the type of person who cannot confront your anxiety and worry, you have to start learning how to before it lead you to severe mental sickness that is caused by anxiety, which can lead to severe depression.
Steps in Confronting Your Anxiety and Worry
If simply ignoring your anxiety and worry don’t work for you, here’s a guide on how you can confront it.
1. Admit that You Have a Problem
Oftentimes, we become too confident, perfectionist and egoistic that we always see ourselves as rightful. It is our human nature to feel that the universe exist for us and we are the priority. Often, such feeling and thinking, of being the center of the universe, lead us to not accept that there’s something wrong with us too. When we can’t accept that there’s something wrong with ourselves, then, nothing can be solve. So the first step to confronting your anxieties and worries is to admit that you are suffering from mental illness of anxiety and worries. It’s nothing to be ashamed of; it’s just being realistic, not idealistic, that there is something wrong with you, for only then can you move on into resolving it.
2. Identify the Source of Your Anxiety and Worry
Once you’ve accepted that there’s something wrong with you and you need to confront it, now you can do the next step: identify the source of the problem. Ask yourself the following:
- What do I feel?
- Why am I feeling it?
Write down each emotions and thoughts that are bothering you.
3. Determine Your Solution
When your anxiety and worry are recurring, the only way to stop it is to determine the solution. Because ignoring your recurring anxiety and worry will not end it.
4. Learn to Accept and Move Forward
Every decision has an equivalent benefit and as well as consequence. Learn to accept both the benefit and consequence of your decisions. Furthermore, move forward without regret.