To start off, I’d like to quote this: “You can’t teach someone what you don’t know”.
A book, 7Habits of Higly Effective people, teaches about cultivating effectiveness in totality of a person. And to do this, cultivation was grouped into two:
- Private Victory
- Pubic Victory.
Both of these are important to achieve our goal of being an effective human being. However, it’s not an easy step to jump from the former to the latter, for before you can do so, you have to ensure that you’ve already applied in your reality the principles of the former.
And to prepare you on the second half of the Habit, below is the recap of the former principle so you can test if you’re already prepared to learn the next half.
Private Victory is more about the habit of cultivating oneself. To do this you have to remember the first three habits:
1) Be Proactive (Make choice a habit)
- You have to keep in my mind that “life’s mostly about choice”
- You are the creator of your life.
- Whatever you mind believes in will be the result of your life.
- Remember that when you get control of thoughts, you’d be able to control yourself and your life.
2) Begin With The End in Mind (Create the life that you want)
- You have to create your own “blueprint” (a Vision/Goal/Dream) then live within that blueprint (in a day to day habit).
- When your blueprint is in writing, you have a guide/reminder of your purpose.
- Remember not to wait for your own funeral before you realize what your life is all about. For those who know what and where their life will take them will never feel lost.
3) Put First Thing First (Do what’s important)
- Talks about the “output”.
- Once you have your own blueprint (No. 2), you have to know how to say no on things that aren’t align to your blueprint.
- Start to learn how to work smart instead of working hard.
- Managing your time to balance it on what’s important and urgent instead of dealing with unimportant and not urgent things.
- Once you’ve master this, you no longer need tablets such as “stress tablets” for you are in control of your most valuable asset called, ‘TIME’.
The second half of the Habit is about “building relationship” or interdependence. The reason you have to ensure the first half (private victory) is already your reality prior to learning the second half (public victory), is because you cannot influence and build relationship with others unless you have build a good relationship with yourself.
As I grow up, I always hear people saying “To Love yourself first before you can love others”.
Now I truly understand this for “You can’t be successful with other people if you haven’t paid the price of being successful with yourself”.
So think and start cultivating yourself first and from then on, start building and cultivating good relationship with other people.
