6 Very Important Lessons They Didn’t Teach You in School

School Black Board The average years that most people stayed in school is 16 years.  In some countries, it may get longer up to 20 years.  Such year can still get a lot longer if one takes further studies like MBA or PHD.

Staying in school with the long hours of classes, to the projects and exams we took, surely shaped who and what we are now.  And with all the lesson plans and long years of hard studying, isn’t that the most rewarding feeling is when you finally receive your diploma?  And after which, you’d feel all set to face the real world.

But instead of a happy ending story, you’re now faced with the stress and misery of the real world you’ve always positively looked forward to.  And you find yourself asking, why they didn’t teach you that in school?  Why didn’t they explained what stress means in school?  And why didn’t they tell you how to handle a devilish boss?

Studying helped us a lot in becoming successful professionals that we are now, but seemingly, these questions and all other brutal facts were left unexplained and untaught in school which we find very relevant as we face and live the real world.

Here are a few very important lessons they should have teach us in school:

1)      The more failure you encounter, the better you become.

Which school encourages failure?  The answer is none.

In school, we were thought to avoid mistakes and to fear failure.  Failing is like a representation that you are dumb and should be embarrassed if you fail.

But in real life, failing is the opposite.  The more you fail the better you become because you’ve learned lessons you couldn’t have known if you didn’t fail.  Failing gives you wider perspective and wisdom on life.

School failed to teach us that life isn’t perfect, and it will never be.  Instead of teaching us how to face failure and adversity, they taught us to fear and avoid failure.

Remember that in life, the most successful people become successful not because they didn’t fail, but because they failed so many times and they stood up after each failure.

2) The win-win attitude

In school, competition is highly encouraged that’s why there’s always a top student and a loser student.  You’d either be a teacher’s pet or worse enemy.  And there’s the average student whom the teacher never realized existed.

Such kind of win-lose attitude was brought in the real world that’s why the “hierarchy” became a part of the workforce.

But as we live our life, we will eventually realize that a “win-win” situation is always the best option you can have.  You’d be able to see that the world is huge where everyone can take it’s on part in contributing goodness to the world.  Nobody will ever be a loser unless he treats himself as one.

Such win-win attitude that if was taught in school could have created a different world free of crisis and hardship because it eliminate a great devil called “selfishness” that rooted from the “win-lose” attitude.

3)      Importance of taking action, not just studying.

Average of 80% of what you’ve learned in school, you won’t be able to apply in real life.  It’s one sad reality.  And why?  Because in school, we were taught to memorize theories and we’ve studied long hours to do so but once you step into the real world, the harsh reality is that theories either are not applied correctly or it’s already obsolete.

One of the brutal facts of our school system is that we love to study theories but we don’t take action.

Remember that “Knowing without action is not knowing”

4)      Understanding emotions.

Intelligence is the main focus of our school system.  Intelligence to become the professional we want to be like accountants, engineer, doctors, lawyers or even business person.  And indeed they’ve done a good job because they’ve made the best of all the professionals we have nowadays.

However, what they’ve failed to teach us is that there is more important knowledge than intelligence itself and it’s our emotions.

We deal with emotions in every single thing we do in our day to day life.  Emotion comes from a single string called “thoughts”.  Our thought gives us a feeling that results our emotions.

Emotion is very important in the real world because it directs us how far we can go.  It includes the way we deal with ourselves, with people around us and the circumstances that we face in our life.  Even if you have high intelligence with a low emotions will surely create difficulty for you.

You have to remember that emotions and intelligence should go hand in hand if you want to achieve greater success in your life.

5) Managing our money and finances

Even if we deny it, in school we were trained to be employees, to be of service to business owners called “Company”.

And as we focus ourselves in being the professional to give the best service, we failed to manage our own finances, our own money.  That’s why even if we work hard for long hours and get the highest paying job, we still end up being broke and doomed with so many debts.

Well, one reason is that we’ve overlooked to gain knowledge on managing and accounting our own finances.  This important factor that determines our future was left untaught for most of us.

6)      It’s great to be different.

In school, we were taught to be uniformed, that you have to follow sets of rules and guidelines or else you’d be kicked out.  And for most countries, we even wear school uniform to best comply with rules.

Not all, but only few encourages self-expression in school.  Most of the time, we are asked not to be noisy and just follow the normal stuff.  As such, we tend to oppress our opinions and true self for fear of being different.  We were taught to believed that being different is not good and abnormal.

But to fulfill your own life’s purpose, you have to find your unique self.  You have to wear your unique clothes.  You have to stand apart.

It’s similar in the workplace because if you want to go further in the ladder you have to “wow” and be extra-ordinary.

For a finale, the lists above are just some of the few things I realized as I face the real world.  You may agree or disagree, but take time to reflect then maybe afterwards, maybe you’d be able to see a different view.


  1. Nice article, I especially liked 1 and 6. It’s hard to be different in school and at work. Unless it’s your own business. The rules and the box with limits is preset, and for ordinary person it’s hard to get out and be creative. I think your blog is a good way to release that unique potential.

  2. I’m sorry. I enjoy your tweets and I was able to read and understand the main ideas, but the grammar was awful. The title and intro are especially bad and it was hit or miss in the body. It’s true they don’t teach these lessons in school and it’s good to make people aware. Thank you for that.

  3. Thanks for your honest comment Elizabeth, we really appreciate that. I’d be honest that English was my poorest subject in school but I’m happy enough that the substance and message of my posts reach my readers like you. Your honest feedback indeed helps us to make rooms for greater improvements. 🙂

  4. I would how life would be like if personal development classes were offered in elementary school. It’s ironic how none of this is taught, yet it’s expected of us, especially in higher level education. I’ve always toyed around with the idea of one day home-schooling my children when I have them. : P

  5. I enjoyed the article and you have touched on many important lessons that we should have been taught but never were taught.

  6. Yes, it will be great if some of these were indeed learned in school, esp the win-win attitude thing. As the world change, the more relevant it is. Thanks for the feedback. 🙂

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