The whole conviction of my life now rests upon the belief that loneliness, far from being a rare and curious phenomenon, peculiar to myself and to a few other solitary men, is the central and inevitable fact of human existence. ~ Thomas Wolfe
Have you ever felt suppressed? Do you feel like your life is full of restrictions that you want to breakaway?
I, personally, have felt this for a number of times in my life. I’m not sure if it was because I’m perfectionist, idealist and impatient, or it was because there is indeed a missing piece in my life.
I’ve made a lot of mistakes, which a number of times I can’t admit as a mistake, even if it is indeed a mistake. There are moments when I feel that the missing piece was result of my mistakes. Although there will be instance that it is, however, I’ve learned to accept that the missing piece will always be part of life.
Everybody is Searching for that Missing Piece
Finding prosperity and happiness is what all of us desire in life. And as part of human nature, even if we achieve prosperity in life, we still feel empty with a missing piece.
In this instance, you always have two choices. Your choices are to go on with your life and continue living with a missing piece (TO STICK) or you let go of your current life and search for that missing piece (TO BREAK FREE).
To Stick or To Break Free
Recently, I’ve been busy with a number of things. This thing includes preparing for our wedding this June 2011, buying and fixing our new house, attending and conducting trainings, and maintaining other responsibility in my desk.
If you think about it, I have a full life in my hand and I’m blessed in a lot of things. You probably think I don’t have worries and anxieties. Well, that’s what I thought too, in the past. I’ve thought that once you achieve your goals and you have prosperity, you’ll be happy. Until I’ve learned that it’s not like that.
It’s not I’m ungrateful with my life, because I am so grateful. But despite the blessings and gratitude, there are still moment I feel empty. Because it’s human nature to feel that, as they say, life is not perfect and nobody is perfect. With that realization, whenever I feel down because things don’t go as I want to, I remind myself of the two choices: TO STICK OR TO BREAK FREE.
STICK EVEN IF YOU FEEL EMPTY
Sticking even if it’s painful and unfulfilling, that’s the common decision of people.
The PRO’s of sticking is that it reduces risk of the probability to be unhappy, miserable and failure. And it helps you develop patience, humility and gratitude.
The CON’s, however, when you choose to stick, there will be “what ifs”. Once in awhile, you will feel sad and empty because the missing piece will show up and lure you to feeling unhappy again.
When you choose to stick, remind yourself of this truth:
Experience taught me a few things. One is to listen to your gut, no matter how good something sounds on paper. The second is that you’re generally better off sticking with what you know. And the third is that sometimes your best investments are the ones you don’t make. ~ Donald Trump
LET GO AND SEARCH FOR THE MISSING PIECE
Letting go is the hardest decision. It may not be the right or wrong choice, but it is surely the hardest to do. People feel scared of uncomfortable things and the possibility of failing.
The PRO’s of letting go is you may end up more happy and successful in life. The freedom to choose and find your missing piece is the most enthusiastic feeling. You may end up living a better and happier life.
The CON’s, however, letting go is risky and uncomfortable. You will need to sacrifice people and you have to go out of your comfort zone.
When you choose to let go, remind yourself of this truth:
Think about any attachments that are depleting your emotional reserves. Consider letting them go. ~Oprah Winfrey
For a final note, in life, we will always feel empty, that is part of life existence that we cannot control and avoid. Instead of feeling miserable and negative, do something about it. Make a choice and live with it.
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