At one point in life, we may experience getting our heart broken. Whether the relationship fell apart, feelings faded or there’s already someone else.
I, too, experienced getting my heart broken. It was indeed a painful experience because it came unexpectedly, I was blinded and unprepared. During those times I wished I could have read the signs that it was coming so it didn’t hurt that bad, but later on I realized no one is really prepared for a heartbreak that’s why it’s painful.
I wasn’t able to handle the break up with poise, in fact, I handled it bad. I remember crying so much in a busy fast food without caring that people are staring. I was crying in my office desk in the middle of my work that everyone in my team, including my boss, knew I was heartbroken. I was crying and drunk in the middle of a lively bar where my friends had to carry me back home. I was in a total mess and it lasted for about ten months before I finally got myself back together. After all, it was a 5 years first relationship I had to forget. Back then, I was just 22 years old, I was young and immature; I didn’t have solid life principles just yet I guess that’s why I’ve handled the break up badly. It took me a year or two to finally get over it.
And now, as I look back, I saw the big change that event created in my life, especially in my personality. I’ve learned a lot from such experience of heartbreak. I can feel that it did change me, for the better.
In this article, I’d like to share with you some tips on what to do after a break up. Learn how you can gain from it, by becoming a better person, instead of being trapped by the pain, hurt and loss.
6 Things To Do After a Break Up
1. Cry and feel the pain
Don’t be embarrassed to cry. You need to cry to be able to let go of the pain and hurt. Suppressing it will only prolong your agony.
2. Take a time off and enjoy yourself
When we are in a relationship, oftentimes we think more of our loved one that we tend to forget ourselves. Now that you are back in single status, take time to enjoy the most neglected person on earth, and that’s you.
3. Go out and have fun with other people
Another common thing that happens when we enter a relationship is that we tend to spend less time with people other than our boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, wife or husband. We tend to forget spending time with our friends or other family members.
Now that you are not in a relationship, take time to hang out with your friends and family. And be sure to continue to hang out with them once in a while when you enter another relationship.
4. Do productive things to keep you busy
After the breakup, we start to have fear in our heart with regards to how we will live in the future alone, without the person were used to spend most of our time with. In order to kill those fears and pain, keep yourself busy with productive things. It will keep you away from feeling lonely and depress.
5. Join groups and community
Nowadays, there are a lot of community groups catering to help ease and solve specific problems such as alcoholism or dealing with cancer. Also, there are groups of like-minded people who meet and gather to talk about their hobbies and interest such photography group, runners, book lovers, bloggers, business, fashion, etc. Find out what you are interested and passionate about and start joining groups of like-minded people. It will not only keep you busy but also increases the chance that you find your real lifetime mate once again.
6. Seek counsel or therapy
If you’ve done all the above but you still continue to feel depressed, and with little interest in enjoying life, it’s time you seek professional help. Visit a psychiatrist or psychologist who can help you emotionally heal. Depression is an emotional sickness that recurs if not treated. So if you can’t handle it alone, let professionals help you before it lead to further problems.
I hope this article has enlightened you, remember that the pain you are feeling now will fade away sooner or later. Just keep moving and try to enjoy life. Remember this:
Starting today, I need to forget what’s gone. Appreciate what still remains and look forward to what’s coming next.