Why is Everybody Else So Difficult?

When faced with difficult situation in life, we tend to find fault and resentment to other people.

We say numerous reasons why other people have done things wrong.  We love to play the ‘blaming’ game wherein we blame negative circumstances to everyone else except the person closest to you, and that’s YOURSELF.

That’s pretty normal, so stop denying that you are not like that because it’s our human nature to hate being judged as faulty.  It’s hard for us to accept that we have follies too, it may be because of our ego or we just want to preserve our self-esteem.

During difficult moments, may it be done by a person, circumstance or place, here’s some of the things you can do to handle the situation without playing the ‘blaming’ game:

1.  Breathing Exercise

Breathing exercise can help you relax and stay calm.  This is similar to the old saying, “Count 10 when you are mad, Count 100 when you are really mad”.

When you do breathing exercise, inhale deeply and then exhale slowly.  Let go of any thoughts and think of nothing else but your breathing.  Focus your thoughts in your breathing.

2.  Look at a Beautiful or Relaxing Sight

Another way to deal and handle a difficult situation is to look at a beautiful or relaxing sight.  If you are working in an office and you have your own working table, you can put pictures of significant people in your life or just a beautiful picture that you can easily look at when things get really stressful and difficult.  If you are home-based, try to hang a painting or picture portrait in your home which you can easily look at to help you get relaxed and stress-free.

3.  Rule Your Emotion

In difficult situation, we usually let our emotion take control of the situation which is why we feel stressed, annoyed and we get angry.  And once we let these negative emotion control us, the situation doesn’t get easy or solved, in fact, it gets even worse.

I’ve used to be really emotional myself, and I’ve experienced a lot of negative effect because I let my emotion rule my capacity to think.  But I’ve learned my lesson well, and started to take control of my emotion by thinking before I feel.  It helps a lot to keep me calm, relax and positive even during difficult moments.

Remember that difficult moment is not as bad if we know how to handle it, if we don’t let our emotion take control of us and play the ‘blame’ game.  Nothing beats open-mindedness and humility, for it is easier to take on the side of pride and protect yourself from being faulty.  But what good does it give you?  All but negative things like stress, pimples and worse, a ruined day and relationship.  These things don’t only make you feel bad, but makes you ugly both inside and outside.

In each difficult situation, do not let anger and pride take on you.  Take it calmly and do not take it against you and of the other person.  If you are wrong, admit that you are wrong but never let it degrade you as a person.

If not always, most of the time, the weight of difficulty depends on how you take on it and think of it.  So why waste your time being ugly, take on the lighter side and be happy.  Dust if off and move on to more important things.

Whenever you are trap with difficult situation, think of this phrase:

Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors. ~ Proverb

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  1. Wow, Now that suprised me as i really never had an outlook on the subject like that.

  2. nice suggestions ,helpful in need.

  3. great advice.
    keep it up!

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